“You must never be satisfied with losing. You must get angry, terribly angry, about losing. But the mark of the good loser is that he takes his anger out on himself and not his victorious opponents or on his teammates.”
So I was talking to my wife and she was telling me about a story she had recently heard about a town in Michigan where they were no longer keeping track of wins and loses. They had made the decision that games could end in ties and if a team actually loses the game they would no longer be referred to as loser but the second winner. They are no longer doing cuts during try outs but continue to form teams so everyone can participate. When did we start teaching our kids that winning and losing isn’t important, why are we teaching children that mediocrity is acceptable.
I hated to lose as a kid and I hate to lose as an adult, it ruins my entire day. But the only way that I figured out that losing sucks is to endure loses growing up and learn from them. I hate that people are trying to shelter kids from the emotions you feel during competition. If you take the competitiveness out of playing sports than we’re going to produce a group of people who fold under intense competitive situations. It doesn’t matter if you are an athlete or in business you are going to be put into a situation that will involves winning and losing.
No matter what you are involved with you can’t the competitiveness out of what you’re doing. Don’t compromise the importance of the lessons you can learn from taking a lose. Coach Izzo would always tell us that he understood that losing hurt and it should hurt you, if it doesn’t hurt then you don’t care enough. But there is an unbelievable amount of knowledge you can gain from losing and that pain and knowledge you feel after a lose will propel you to future victories.
“No matter how hard the loss, defeat might serve as well as victory to shake the soul and let the glory out”